How to Stop Yelling, Snapping Or Nagging At Your Kids When You Get
Overwhelmed or Overstimulated.
Grab the simple tools used by thousands of moms to experience those overwhelming moments differently, so you can respond without snapping & regretting it later.
No pretending your fine. No forcing yourself to act calm.
This Formula Will Help You…
01.
Stop Snapping at Your Kids
Even when everyone needs you at once and you’re already completely maxed out.
02.
End the Heart-Sink of Your Upset Kid Stomping Up the Stairs
So their big emotion moment doesn't pull you down with it.
03.
Feel Calm Instead of Getting Pulled Into the Drama
So what used to push your buttons doesn’t trigger you anymore.
04.
Don’t "Lose It" on Your 14th Teams Meeting of the Day
Stay steady when one more request, or “quick question” feels like the thing that might finally send you over the edge.
Over the last 15+ years, we have helped thousands of students get these results. These are real students at our in-person live events.
The pictures on this page are all from our countless live, in-person events with real students in our programs.
Who Is This For?
Overwhelmed moms who want to feel calm & connected
(without having to meditate every 5 minutes.)
Busy women who want real peace in their marriage
(without endless conflict or pretending “It's Fine.”)
Caring parents who want to to be patient with their kids
(instead of yelling, nagging or blowing up.)
Leaders & professionals who want to protect their energy
(without letting drama vampires at work steal their mood.)
Women craving genuine connection & calm
(without pleasing everyone else or shutting people out.)
You Are Not Alone. And There is a Better Way.
We Cracked the Code!
15+ Years, Thousands of Student Successes...
I’ve spent years working with thousands of overwhelmed moms who all thought they were the only ones struggling to keep it together.
Over and over, I’d hear the same stories...
"My husband comes home in a foul mood, and suddenly the whole house gets tense."
"One kid has a meltdown, and just like that, the entire day is thrown off."
"I can't lose it at work... I need to be better than that."
Moms tell themselves, “Tomorrow, I’ll keep my cool. Tomorrow, I’ll be the mom I want to be.”
But by bedtime, they’re lying awake, feeling guilty, wishing they hadn’t snapped, yelled, or shut down...again.
What We Do Differently...
I realized the problem wasn’t that these women weren’t trying hard enough.
The real issue was that nobody had ever given these lovely ladies the right tools...something to use right in the moment, when the storm hits.
So I created a set of practical, “in-the-moment” tools for staying calm and in control, no matter what’s happening around them.
The Calm, Peace & Control Was Instant...
Once our students started using these tools, everything changed.
Not only did they keep calm and stay in control, they genuinely felt peace—even when things around them were chaotic.
The tools worked at home, at work, with family, in the community, and yes, even with the dog.
Instead of forcing themselves to “be the bigger person” or walk on eggshells, the tools allowed them to experience the moment differently no pretending, no emotional hangover.
Just real calm and real control.
The Unexpected Response (Spouse & Kids)
The best part? After a while, these moms would tell me their kids...and even their spouse...were starting to model the same calm and control back to them.
It spread through their whole family, at home, at school, and at work, without anyone else needing a lesson.
Inside Calm Control, we’ll show you exactly how to create this shift for yourself, so you can finally feel calm, centered, and proud of how you show up, no matter what life throws at you
Everything You Need to
Handle the Moment Differently
SIMPLE. PRACTICAL. REAL LIFE SOLUTIONS FOR REAL MOMS
They say, “Just stay calm” or “Don’t let them get to you.”
But here’s what they’re missing...
Telling you to "Stay calm" doesn't SOLVE the trigger... it just demands that you HIDE your reaction!
Besides... their moods fill the house.
You feel the tension in your chest.
Arguments start over nothing.
You snap, shut down, or walk on eggshells to keep the peace.
You end up carrying the weight for everyone, feeling like you are about to lose it, or worse, go numb.
People will tell you to just let it go, or keep thinking positive, or act like nothing is wrong.
They might say, “Don’t let them push your buttons,” ...as if it’s all in your head.
But the reaction is already happening inside of you.
Pretending not to care just leaves you stressed and disconnected.
Trying to out-think your reactions never seems to work in the heat of the moment.
If you are tired of losing your peace every time someone else is losing theirs, you are not alone.
You DO NOT have to cut people out.
You DO NOT have to fake calm
or pretend it does not bother you.
You need a real tool you can use in the middle of real life, right when it counts. That is what Calm Control gives you.
You get practical tools you can use right away to experience the moment differently.
To genuinely feel calm, centered, and proud of how you show up, no matter what is happening around you.
Calm Control allows you to actually feel calm instead of just forcing yourself to "act calm".
You do not need anyone else to join in.
You do not have to talk it out or wait for an apology.
You can do this quietly and privately, right where you are.
And yes, it really works.
The Morning That Changed Everything
She used to wake up dreading the first words out of her husband’s mouth...never knowing if it would be a good day or the start of another round of tension and arguments.
Every little thing set off a chain reaction: her spouse’s mood, a child’s meltdown, a snide email from work. The pressure would build until she snapped, shut down, or spent hours replaying every moment in her head, wondering why she kept losing her cool.
Then, she tried the Calm Control tools. Instead of being hijacked by everyone else’s moods, she learned exactly how to shift, to experience the moment differently.
The next time her teen’s attitude flared up or her husband shut down, she stayed steady.
She didn’t have to fake it or walk on eggshells; she felt proud of how she responded.
Her family felt it too. Arguments faded faster. Dinner was lighter.
She ended her day feeling calm, centered, and in control...no matter what anyone else brought home.
That’s the power of what we teach:
Real peace, in real life, no matter how messy things get around you. Inside Calm Control, I’ll show you exactly how.
MEET YOUR HOSTS
We Are The "HOW" People
STACEY MARTINO accidentally discovered the dynamic that's been destroying everybody's long-term relationships and then, together with her husband Paul, they invented the cure to solve it.
Over the last 15+ years thousands & thousands of students around the world have proven that our method and tools work.
These tools give you the results you want in marriage, parenting, workplace, family, friendships...even the relationship you have with yourself.
This has been the missing piece in human relationships.
We call it Relationship Development®.
Through their profound work, the Martino’s have shown that couples work, doesn’t work; and that relationship is a skill-set and it can be learned.
The Martino’s have proven that it only takes ONE person to transform a relationship, ANY relationship!
Paul & Stacey Martino
Creators of Relationship Development® & Hay House Authors, The Missing Piece
Proven Results... 1000s of Students... 15+ Years
During a 6-year study of student results, the students in their RelationshipU® program had a 1% Divorce Rate, all 6 years! Those results are unheard of and that's because...
their methodology WORKS!
Relationship Development Org (RDO) is a mission-driven organization here to serve families and change the lives of children. RDO’s mission is to empower one individual in each family, with the Relationship Development skill sets to transform their marriage & parenting, break the chains of Demand Relationship™ and change the trajectory of their family’s legacy.
Stacey & Paul have been together for nearly 30 years, have raised 2 amazing kids and grown RDO through all the craziness of life.
Praise for The Relationship Development® Method
from the students
"Relationship Development is a game changer. The tools shared will affect every (and I mean every) relationship, whether it’s spouse, parent/child, business, co-worker, neighbor. Each relationship can be completely directed in a positive, uplifting, and loving way!”
— Bryant V.
“I stumbled across Stacey and Paul Martino while searching for ways to start my divorce. I felt that I was trapped in a marriage that I didn’t sign up for, with a husband I couldn’t speak to without fighting.
Fast-forward a couple of years and I am the happiest I have ever been! I singlehandedly transformed my broken marriage using the Relationship Development Method. My husband and I talk every day about the topics that we used to fight about.”
— Diana
“Relationship Development is the best thing I’ve ever learned. First, so I can actually love myself for who I am, and second, so I can lead by example and help my kids learn the same. I will be forever grateful to Stacey and Paul for helping me see things differently!”
— Julie R.
“Stacey and Paul Martino are world changers! Relationship Development has taken me to my next level in every area of my life. It fundamentally changed the way I approach life, and now I have total confidence in my ability to skillfully navigate whatever comes next. Despite ongoing challenges, I am the happiest and most at peace that I have ever been. I am eternally grateful to Stacey and Paul for the skills
and tools they teach with such incredible talent, wisdom, and sparkly joy! They are among the most important people of our generation, and I most enthusiastically recommend their teachings to anyone looking to uplevel their life and evolve their soul. Thank you, Martinos, for all you do, and most importantly, who you are!”
— D.H.
“Before joining Relationship Development, my partner and I had been in a comfortable but stagnant relationship for seven years. We were content, but we knew something was missing. Relationship Development has completely transformed our relationship. We went from a ‘meh’ relationship to experiencing love, excitement, and a shared desire to make the most of our lives together. Bonus: Our daughters are witnessing the positive impact of Relationship Development. They see first hand how a healthy and fulfilling relationship looks like and the mindset/tools required to get there.”
— Hannan
“Relationship Development not only saved my marriage, but it also saved me! My marriage was in a shambles. We were fighting what felt like every single day, and I had become a version of myself I knew was not me, not who I wanted to be, and definitely not who my family deserved! Stacey and Paul helped me realize that there was a better way! They helped me to see and understand the dynamics that were
unfolding in the fights between my husband and I, and taught me tools to actually solve them! And it worked! I believe every human deserves this knowledge!”
— Sarah
“Relationship Development has transformed me from the inside out! Everyone deserves to have this opportunity. Practical and transformative. This is worthy work!”
— Renee R.
“Relationship Development has transformed every aspect of my life, from my marriage and parenting to work and family relationships. I can now say that I truly love myself. Life’s challenges haven’t stopped, yet my happiness level keeps on increasing. This method is something every human being deserves to know.”
— A.C.
“Relationship Development has completely transformed my life. I first thought it was going to make my marriage better. What I have actually received has been an absolute gift! The level of peace and joy I get to experience every day is something I never thought was possible. This, from implementing the tools and strategies to become the best and most authentic version of myself possible.”
— Amanda
“I was teetering on the verge of despair and divorce after years of trying everything I could to reconnect with my husband for a more fulfilling and fun marriage... yet everything fell flat so I was exhausted! Something was missing and it felt beyond my grasp! Then I discovered the Martinos and their Relationship Development methodology, and everything changed for the better! I am so much happier and have a stronger love foundation to role model a healthy marriage and home life for our son.”
— S.K.
“By the grace of God, I found Relationship Development. With Paul and Stacey’s guidance, not only was our marriage saved, but it has become better than it ever was before. Our family is joy filled, connected, and there’s a newfound peace in our home. We no longer run to the end of our skillset quickly; we are consistently growing
together as a family and learning to navigate whatever comes our way together.”
— J.S.
“Relationship Development transformed our marriage when political tensions were straining our relationship. By implementing the methods, I shifted how I approached our conversations, especially around politics. Remarkably, this change defused the tension, and my husband, without even knowing about the tools, became more relaxed and happier. As we celebrate 30 years of marriage this year, our relationship, which had been under pressure, is now stronger and more connected. Today, we’ve moved past the political bickering and rediscovered the deep love and passion that first brought us together.”
— L.W.
“Relationship Development has changed my life for the better. I didn’t know there was so much to learn about relationships until I met Stacey and Paul. Everyone needs to learn the Relationship Development skillset and take their relationships to the next level!”
— Hillary
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